Counselling

What Is Counselling and how can it help me?

How often do people book an appointment for a counsellor and have no idea who they are going to see, have never spoken to them before and don’t really know what type of service they are going to get when they get there?

Would you be suprised to know about 90%?

Counselling in itself is a therapy that involves an individual talking about their feelings and problems in confidence in an environment that is non-judgemental and supportive. Part of this process involves discussing topics that are uncomfortable, perhaps painful and sometimes embarrassing. As you go through this process it will be difficult and you shouldn’t expect instant results, sometimes you have to feel worse to get better. You also have to be prepared to commit time to this process, more often than not it will require a number of sessions to achieve the agreed upon result. 

The most important thing that you should know as a client, is that there is nothing more important than the therapeutic relationship. What does this mean? well you are about to meet a complete stranger and discuss matters that are very personal to you. All too often I have been told by my clients that previous counsellors or psychologists have not listened to what they had to say. I personally have experienced this years ago when I was sent to a psychologist for PTSD, she had one eye on her laptop and her other eye drifted between me and the clock!

You have to feel a connection between you and the counsellor, this is very much a partnership and if you don’t feel that connection then it is likely that at some point you will leave that therapist feeling let down and disappointed.

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Solution Focused Therapy

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a talk therapy that is solution focused. CBT aims to identify situation or conditions that are troubling to you. CBT focuses on becoming aware of the thought process behind these problems, challenging the negative thoughts working in the background, and reshaping ineffective thought patterns.

 The role of the therapist is to assist the client in finding and practicing new strategies to address identified and agreed upon goals.

CBT is based on the belief that distorted thoughts and behaviours that are maladaptive are at the core of problems and symptoms and distress can be reduced by utilising new, more effective, coping mechanisms. CBT is used in conjuction with Solution focused or solution focused brief therapy as its sometimes called, it’s based on the premise that holding a discussion that focuses on results is better than a discussion that focuses on the problem.

 In this form of therapy there is no need to get into discussions about your childhood or even your past. The emphasis during your sessions is firmly fixed on the present or the future, where you work towards lessening the impact that your current problems have on your life now.

 This form of therapy finds its roots in the family therapy field. It was observed that too much time was spent discussing problems rather than working on solutions. Given this starting point it is easy to see where solution focused therapy can be utilised in the family environment, couples counselling as well as with individuals. It can address particular modern problems ranging from life events with a high impact to everyday stress. 

EMDR

Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprogramming or EMDR, is without a doubt the most scientifically studied of all therapy treatments.

 In this form of therapy there is no need to get into discussions about your childhood or even your past. The emphasis during your sessions is firmly fixed on the present or the future, where you work towards lessening the impact that your current problems have on your life now.

 This approach is founded on the AIP or adaptive Information Processing model, at its heart this model basically there is a belief that every human being has a natural and physical method in which information is processed into memory.

In the majority of cases disturbing memories that are not so traumatic that they are overwhelming are processed in a similar manner to other memories. There is an event, the person thinks about the incident, talks about it and maybe even dreams about it. Following this the memory is processed and the past is the past over and done with. We learn from the incident and move on.

Trauma can be defined as when the natural information system fails to process an incident and the memory is dysfunctionally  stored. 

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Emotional Freedom Technique

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a process of what has become known as “Energy Psychology”. A term derived from the fact that it has ‘borrowed’ various therapies and combined them with a range of techniques associated with the body’s natural Energy processes. These behavioural change techniques are based on the same principles as acupuncture and acupressure, which typically involve some form of stimulation along specific energy or meridian points. The principles being that through this stimulation, which results in deep relaxation, while internally focusing on the object causing the phobia, the client becomes desensitised to the object.

EFT has been proven to have great success in the treatment of anxiety based conditions, in particular the treatment of phobias. It has been reported to be rapid acting and has the added benefit of being non intrusive and very easy for the client to administer themselves. Furthermore this form of therapy has proven to be just as effective in treating both verbal descriptions and images of the thing causing the phobia.

The term itself and the processes associated have only been in existence since the late 60’s. Therefor the history of EFT per se is a short one. It is worth however at this point mentioning some of the energetic health principles it has borrowed from, the histories of which go back thousands of years.


NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

NLP is founded on the principle that individuals operate on their own internal maps of the world. There is no one single definition of NLP as there are a number of Different interpretations.

 It is claimed that behaviour and thoughts can be changed via the use of language, or rather how we process language. We all have unconscious biases towards different sensory systems within ourselves. “I can hear what you are saying”, or “I can see your view on that”, are examples of sensory language.

 The therapist will look for simple references which can lead to an indication of where your bias may lie. When this bias is known a plan moving forward through treatment can be formulated with your sensory perception at the heart of this plan.

 NLP was developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder, it was their belief that people who have achieved great success in life have particular patterns of thought process. They believe it is possible to take these patterns and teach people these behaviours. 

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